And if all else fails, pick up your phone. Join a club, take a class or get involved with an LGBTQ+ advocacy or volunteer group to boost your chances of meeting like-minded folks. Ask some friends with good taste to set you up with one of their friends and hope you hit it off (and that it doesn't make things weird if it doesn't work out).
As adults, we've basically got four options for finding love: Head to your favorite watering hole and keep your eyes open for a gal or nonbinary person who ticks the right boxes.